• How well do you know your partner's inner thoughts and feelings, joys, stresses, worries and hopes?

  • Is there fondness and admiration in your relationship?  Is there a mutual respect and expression of appreciation?

  • Are you and your partner able to express your wants, desires and needs?  Are they being met?  

  • Are you and your partner able to approach problems in a positive, open-minded way?

  • Can you manage conflict in your relationship?  Are there more perpetual problems or solvable problems?

  • Are you and your partner able to talk honestly about hopes, values, convictions and aspirations?

  • Is there trust in your relationship?  Do you believe your partner has your best interests at heart?  Can you both say, "my partner has my back and is there for me?"

  • Do you both agree that your relationship with each other is a lifelong journey, for better or for worse?

  • Do you both cherish each other's positive qualities and express gratitude rather than magnifying  the negative qualities and nurture resentment?

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed to help couples:

  • Increase respect, affection, and closeness

  • Break through and resolve conflict when they feel stuck

  • Generate greater understanding between partners

  • Keep conflict discussions calm

The Gottman Institute research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. 

Couples Counseling

Shani Clement utilizes the Gottman Method Couples Therapy when working with couples.  


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