Couples Counseling

Shani Clement utilizes the Gottman Method Couples Therapy when working with couples.  

The Gottman Institute research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. 

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The Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed to help couples:

  • Increase respect, affection, and closeness

  • Break through and resolve conflict when they feel stuck

  • Generate greater understanding between partners

  • Keep conflict discussions calm

The Gottman Institute research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. 

  • Is there fondness and admiration in your relationship?  Is there a mutual respect and expression of appreciation?

  • Do you both cherish each other's positive qualities and express gratitude rather than magnifying  the negative qualities and nurture resentment?

  • Is there trust in your relationship?  Do you believe your partner has your best interests at heart?  Can you both say, "my partner has my back and is there for me?"

  • How well do you know your partner's inner thoughts and feelings, joys, stresses, worries and hopes?

  • Are you and your partner able to express your wants, desires and needs?  Are they being met?  

  • Are you and your partner able to approach problems in a positive, open-minded way?

  • Can you manage conflict in your relationship?  Are there more perpetual problems or solvable problems?

  • Do you both agree that your relationship with each other is a lifelong journey, for better or for worse?

  • Are you and your partner able to talk honestly about hopes, values, convictions and aspirations?

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